As a single mum to twins, working full-time and managing a household, routine and organisation aren’t just nice to have – they’re absolutely essential. Without them, the wheels would fall off pretty quickly! Juggling so many plates at once can be overwhelming at times, but I’ve learned that structure is what keeps the chaos in check.
Every so often, I take a step back and review where I’m at in different areas of life. It helps me see what’s working and where things might need a bit more attention. Sometimes, it’s a gentle reminder that I can’t give 100% to everything all the time and that’s okay.
Love Life? Currently on Pause.
Let’s be honest, my love life is non-existent right now. I simply don’t have the time or emotional capacity to bring someone new into my world. Between the girls, work, and everything else, my energy goes into my family and my close friendships.
And truthfully, I’m at peace with that. I’ve been happily single for over ten years, and I genuinely enjoy the life I’ve built. I know that, in time – God willing – the right person will come along. But when that happens, I want to be able to give that relationship the energy and care it deserves.
The Morning Marathon
Energy as a single mum is precious and often in short supply! Mornings start early and move fast: packing lunches, serving breakfast, making sure uniforms are clean, homework is done, books are packed, and vitamins are taken. It’s a full-on operation before 8 a.m.
Once school drop-off is done, I take a few quiet moments for myself. We usually pray together in the morning or on the drive to school, but when I get back home, I like to pray again, meditate if I can, and do a few quick chores before starting work. That little pocket of stillness helps me reset for the day ahead.
Work Mode: All Systems Go
My job is full-on and doesn’t leave much breathing space during the day. There’s barely time to put a wash on, let alone think about anything outside of work. My “lunch break” is really the school pick-up run, an hour spent driving, parking, replying to messages, and making calls before collecting the girls.
Once we’re home (or after a quick dash to the shop), it’s straight into “mum mode”: uniforms go in the wash, snacks come out, and I get the girls settled before jumping back on the laptop for another hour or two.
Evenings: The Second Shift
When work wraps up, the evening rhythm begins. Dinner on, tidying up, baths running and now that the nights are darker, the rabbit comes in earlier, gets his dinner sorted, and tucked up for the night too!
Then comes homework time. We try to get all homework done Monday through Thursday so that weekends can be completely free. It’s important for the girls to have downtime to play, see friends and family, and just be free!
By around 9:00 p.m., we’re all ready for bed. It’s our little wind-down ritual before the whole routine starts again the next morning.
Planning Ahead
Between hobbies, pets, and busy weekends, our calendar fills up quickly. I love planning ahead for school holidays, usually about a month in advance, so we can book tickets and have things to look forward to.
October half-term is already jam-packed (as is the run-up to Christmas and into January). I’ll start thinking about February half-term next month, that one’s usually quieter, a good time to reset, catch up on house bits, and enjoy some cosy home days.
My Simple Planning Tools
I don’t use anything fancy to keep our lives organised — just a mix of phone notes, Google Calendar, and a good old-fashioned planner.
- Notes App: I keep monthly and category-based to-do lists pinned for easy access.
- Google Calendar: We have a shared family calendar for school events and time with their dad, and another one just for home life, so the girls can see what’s coming up. Then there’s my work calendar to make sure nothing overlaps.
- Planner: I still love writing things down, there’s something grounding about seeing everything laid out on paper.
Staying organised as a single mum isn’t about perfection, it’s about finding systems that work for you and giving yourself the space when things get messy (because they will). Routine gives our days rhythm, but it’s the flexibility within that routine that keeps life balanced and, dare I say, enjoyable.
