I’m currently having coaching sessions to rebuild my confidence and take my life, across all areas, to the next level. I’ve shared more about this previously for context here.
Each session so far has really helped me evaluate challenges, step back and view everything through a different lens. From there, I’m able to zoom in on the areas that need my attention and improvement, without the pressure of perfection.
The last two sessions focused on my constant need to be perfect, to have everything together and the tendency to be incredibly hard on myself. Those sessions came at exactly the right time, as I had to sadly say goodbye to my cat, who was 19 years old – we lost her sister end of January, so it’s been such a heartbreaking time this past 3 months.
During that time, my headspace felt clear. I wasn’t overthinking, I simply knew what needed to be done to prepare myself. I tuned into where she was, checking on her constantly. She had been on palliative care for the past two years, alongside her sister, so I was already used to monitoring her closely throughout the day.
I prepared the girls as much as I could, contacted the vets in advance to let them know I may need to come in immediately and made sure everything was in place financially. Taking those steps removed so much stress and allowed me to focus fully on my girl, keeping her calm, safe and surrounded by love right through to the end.
I prayed deeply and I truly believe God was with me every step of the way. The pain of seeing her suffer outweighed the pain of saying goodbye.
This experience reminded me that, despite being a mum of twins and single-handedly curating our lives as best as I can, life is never going to flow perfectly and that’s okay. Being present and living in the moment is what truly matters.
Years ago, I practiced mindfulness daily and I know how powerful it was for my headspace. But life has a way of pulling you back in – you lose sight of the natural ebbs and flows, constantly focusing on moving forward and upward without always pausing to process.
I’ve done a lot of healing over the past two decades, but coaching has really helped me close certain chapters with both passion and compassion, while also learning to be kinder to myself.
I’ve started building some great daily habits. Some feel easy and natural, while others are more challenging, but I’m at peace with that. I’ve been using an app that was recommended to me and I genuinely love it. It’s helping me become more aware of what I tend to avoid and now I’m exploring how to break those “unachievable” habits down into smaller, more manageable steps.
Making the Most of Coaching Sessions
One thing I’ve learned already is that coaching isn’t just about what happens during the session – it’s about how you show up before, during and after it.
For me, making the most of each session has looked like being honest about where I’m at, even when it’s uncomfortable. Letting go of the need to present everything as “fine” has opened the door to much deeper, more meaningful conversations.
Taking time to reflect beforehand has also made a huge difference. Going into a session with a sense of what’s been coming up for me, whether that’s a pattern, a challenge, or even just a feeling – helps guide the conversation in a more intentional way.
And then there’s what happens after.
The real work begins in the space between sessions. It’s in the small, daily choices. The moments where you catch yourself thinking or reacting in an old way and consciously choose something different.
I’ve also realised that not every habit or action needs to be mastered immediately. Some things will feel easy, others won’t. The key has been learning to meet myself where I am, adjusting expectations and breaking things down into steps that actually feel achievable.
Above all, it’s about showing up with openness, patience and a willingness to grow, even when that growth feels slow or uncomfortable.
Have you ever had coaching sessions? I’d love to hear your experience – what led you to start and what benefits did you gain from it?
